Talking with a friend in college, those many years ago, I turned to him and said I disagree with any sort of politics (Actually, I probably used stronger words.). We discussed this for a while, though I have little memory of the details, but we shared that once three people come together, politics enters (Not always, for with good friends, the talks are pretty much on the up and up. But to some degree, even then.).
Have you ever noticed that when two people are talking, there is a certain kind of tone and timber to the discussion, and if you’re close or good friends, quite a joy? And depending upon how much time they have known each other, and how close they are, the talks can have a quality of great friendship. An older relative once told me, if you ever have one friend, one you like to do anything together with good conversations, a best friend perhaps, where you can say anything, you are very lucky. Well, in the above example, or with any of your good friends, have you also noticed what happens when a third person enters the conversation, more so if the third party has a different dynamic than the two? A change occurs.
And this is normal, for you’re “close” to one person, not so much with the other, or that relationship is different. Or you don’t feel as open with the other person. Or you don’t want the other person to see the side you share with one you’re very good friends. Perhaps, the other one hasn’t yet shown who they really are, isn’t yet “open”, or doesn’t speak the same language. The “close” conversations are saved for those on the “in” crowd, perhaps in a good way. That’s trust. Something that sometimes happens instantly, but more often takes time to develop. And the time is well spent. Lifetime friendships. There when you need them.
But in life, there is another quality, or are other qualities. People alter their behaviors, what they say, depending upon the crowd. And the more complex society becomes, the more we see the above dynamics at play. And there are reasons for this which I can only share one person’s perspective and only to some degree, for to really go into this would take volumes.
In America, the best country ever to have become, starting on a great foothold, the men and women truly connected to the past, truly understanding tyranny, truly holding liberty precious, so much so that they would rather die free than ever have an over-riding entity provide personal security which they knew often ends up in tyranny, we see what happens when we forget those lessons. They’re not on television except in older movies, they’re diluted in many educational books, and they not popular culture/language. Today, we see what happens when the persuasions are to remove the past, remove the lessons, and dilute history, many changing the precious lessons.
So, growing up with all these “special interests” that have nothing to do with constitutional freedom, break with our history, and trounce morality and traditions (good traditions like family, honesty, hard work, and reliability), we can have so many growing up distracted and lacking clarity. In other words, so many don’t really know who they are. Just read blogs.
I see I could go on and on about this, so I’ll stop myself here. Readers can peruse my previous articles and read so much elsewhere, perhaps old movies prior to the 60s helping. But think about this. Look at what we’re inundated with, from every corner, which then becomes the conversations, people programmed to think in certain terms, thoughts they never would have if left alone to live their lives, on their own merit, by their own hands. From every corner, we see medical commercials and fears with suggestions for this drug, this treatment, these facilities, and all their solutions. From every corner, we’re told about security, retirement, programs to help with this and that, and ways legal help can get us more, and sometimes encouraging us to do things we never would have considered when we were young. But we have to get our own. From every corner, we are constantly bombarded with “sex”, outrageous outfits, exercise this and that, diets this and that, and articles and commercials about me, me, me. We’re constantly watching shows that are the lowest common denominator, lacking in any real substance, and people are buying into this. Why? Because it’s all around them, constantly talked about, like a kind of peer pressure to talk, behave, wear, pursue, and act in order to be part of society. To belong. But to belong to what? Look at blogs. So many about themselves, what they’re going through, how they see the world to feel significant, on every conceivable opinion. People have completely lost touch with what our country was all about, what the founding fathers, patriots, and so many that began this country provided. Yes, I’m sharing my views, but what I’m attempting isn’t about me, but to get others thinking for themselves, for I greatly miss when people weren’t so into themselves, but just went out and did their thing, had dreams, pursued responsibility and opportunities, and worked together for a truly common purpose.
As much as I can, I prefer to be the same wherever I am. As I said to someone at church, if you know me in one place, you know me wherever I am. That’s not entirely true, I know, because at work there’s a certain tone and timber in that environment, and one has to be conscious of social rules and work environment conduct as well as the different types of people. However, even in that, I try to be as much myself as possible, but interestingly, I have found others uncomfortable in being completely themselves, and some, around me, want to walk away because they know, internally, what’s acceptable in today’s society, at work, and in their social groups. Real talk isn’t popular. Think seriously, see the causes and effects, know the answers, and you’re finding less and less people who want to dialogue. Why, some wonder (It could be the person orating is too serious or doesn’t know how to socialize and share conversations, but I’m talking about normal everyday conversations.). Well, I think most people have been “trained” by society to talk in certain ways, to fit in, to speak what’s popular in a popular way. When wearing pants down to the knees was starting, then becoming popular, I said to friends that we’re entering times when intelligence and real understanding was becoming unpopular. We’re going to have a whole wave of society, “trained”, to think of “not thinking for yourself, as the way to be cool. In other words, to not “see,” to not follow the rabbit trail of reason, was becoming more and more accepted. And I can only say, this was in part planned, then encouraged by companies, the entertainment industry, and even places of work and many places of learning. Many places were focusing on emotions rather than understanding. If you thought for yourself, really thought for yourself, because you really wanted to understand, then you were on the out. In part, I experienced this at a university. While I had some good to great professors, I also had those who “hated” me for trying to understand. And there was a growing climate of propaganda. And I suppose, some of it is below the conscious level, for if what was happening was very conscious to people, they never would have bought into it. So, these young men and women were learning to not learn, but learn information without real reflection. You can talk as the professors wanted, but if you stood outside the box, with real insights, it often was not accepted. You might even be seen as a trouble maker. But our country was founded on freedom to think, discuss, argue, debate, and find real solutions. But if the current trends are to keep us from seeking, making intelligence, a real education of self-research and pursuit of a real history, unpopular, then we are going to face being in the minority so to speak. But we are not in the minority. It’s just that most people don’t know how to wade through all this. And as society grows under these influences, some never realizing what’s going on, thinking all this is normal for that’s what they’ve seen since infancy, their own parents unable to verbalize real understanding, cause and effects, and real solutions, what future have they? But they’re there. Since I follow the rabbit trail, I know who’s also following their own path of reason.
Seems most people are playing parts, putting on faces, and over time, have developed a way of being “acceptable” to the others within the construct of that work or other social environment. And with time, more and more people will see this. Why? Because more and more are becoming frustrated with what they see. And more and more are looking to find the causes. And more and more parents are taking on the responsibility of preparing their own children for tomorrow. And more and more truly seeking people are voicing their observations, on television, on the radio, in books and other literature, and in general society. But it takes a seeking crowd to keep planting the seeds of clarity. But they’re there. I see them. I talk with them. Not as an orator. Just supporting what they’re realizing so they know there are others and that they’re on the right path.
Going to the store, I saw a few kids outside the door. I asked, how’s their year going to look. They explained they’re being home schooled, will access online education, but also their parents are providing other lessons. I instantly realized one boy, perhaps ten or twelve, had that aware quality. So, I said, fantastic, but I had two words of advice. While learning important lessons, truly learn the real history of our country including the constitution, and research and learn about work/career opportunities, more so what he’s interested in. He said construction. I gave a thumbs up. Then said goodbye. He was very appreciative. You see? Like Johnny Appleseed. I don’t have to worry. Just encourage others to think for themselves, and if they already are, to give a thumbs up. They’re on their way.
And I’ve encouraged older people who just went off the track for a time. They were searching. So we talked, and then I said have a great life. They’re on their way.
Which gets to the point. I wonder if most people know who they are. I wonder if many people are truly themselves. When they are alone, by themselves, are they comfortable with their own company? I know one neighbor who’s very comfortable in her own skin, whether she’s at work or staying at home to perform tasks online. When the Covid thing happened and she did her work at home, she was very comfortable. And every time I have ever seen her, talked with her, she’s the same person. Then, there are some of my friends always the same wherever they are, but able to adjust and need be, perhaps at work, but life seems simple for them.
But then there’s politics. What is politics? When someone says “politics”, most people think of Congress and Washington. Most people think of the corruption they see. As I see it, bad politics are when people move outside honesty and natural living, speaking openly and honestly, and ready to discuss in a conscientious and understanding way. Bad politics is when people have their own agendas, outside the realm of what is best, wanting something more than what is good, necessary, and common. And many of them are so because they’ve been guided throughout their lives, given brownie buttons for saying what the puppet masters want them to say. But a kind of politics is also when people know what is best, what is right, and realize they will have to conform to some degree to current environments, but they also are working towards changing others for better, through honesty, though they have to work at framing words and actions to bring others along. So, there is good politics, which is honesty, and there is bad politics.
So, when someone says I’m just saying what I believe, that it’s just true for me and not everyone, I know where that person is coming from. No, I explain, what I’m saying is true. It’s just a description of reality. Like saying the sky is blue because it’s blue. Or saying 4 + 3 = 7. I’m just saying what is. I’m telling how the cow ate the cabbage. And if the other person doesn’t see this, then I know they’re either dishonest, confused, have puppet masters, or lost for a time. And yes, in some places, it’s not acceptable to say 4 + 3 =7 and that’s the only answer. Why? There’s a very real reason, but I leave that for the readers to ponder.
I have a habit, as many readers have and many readers know, of picking up clues when listening to others. Within seconds, sometimes in an instant, the other person tells everyone where they’re coming from (I don’t know all about them, of course, but I know where they’re coming from in that moment.). Sometimes, even before they say anything, like when they walk into a room. As I told one coworker, I could see that coworker coming a mile away. Their intentions, motivations, and reason for being is written all over them, and it’s not honest. I didn’t quite put it in those words, but they still didn’t like it (because their sense of control is to make other people doubt themselves), but I was sharing I was the wrong person to play politics with, for that’s what that person was all about. I might have to go along to get along, which is today’s norm, but I will see clearly what intentions are present. Like others, I do what I have to do, but I don’t buy into it. And where I can, real communication occurs.
We all enter the world, probably as close to innocence as we’ll ever be. However, most have to learn to “adapt” to get what they want, to have the friends and associations they want, and to have the opportunities they want. In other words, they have to learn to play the game. But what is the game and why play it? Because otherwise you’ll be “outed.” Depending upon your goals. And as society is molded by those of “special interests,” trying to change other’s beliefs and behaviors, trying to change the foundations of this country, and that becomes all around, and we see more and more people giving up their understanding and common sense, the problems grow. And many end up in psychologists’ offices, some taking meds, because they can’t see the forest for the trees. All of their lives it’s been all around them, like a blanket covering their eyes, but they want to wake up, but they don’t know what being awake looks like. And whenever they start to wake up, there’s so many trying to put the blanket back over their eyes, sometime “attacking” them for being insensitive or uncaring, which real caring is honesty.
That’s why I enjoyed the movie, “The Matrix”, so much, watching it over a dozen times. When it first came out, I was astonished. How was such a movie was ever allowed? Then, I realized, the entertainment industry didn’t figure most people would get much out of it other than being a sci-fi movie. And though it accurately explained how coming into this world is being born with the blanket thrown over your eyes, inundated with propaganda and rhetoric from the beginning, and the table is set to prevent real living, I realized because most people don’t realize the blanket is there, or they look for solutions that aren’t the real solutions, and they go about from problem to problem, solution to solution, some blogging, others writing, filling the words with information that very few can sift through, that the makers would probably just create sequels that would put people back to sleep with more sci-fi movies that change what the first movie shared. And that’s what happened. I know of some fiction writers who told it like it is, then stopped doing that because their career would end, no one would publish their books or air their movies, and they had to change.
But, going back to the previous discussion, the difficulty with politics is, to some degree, you may never really know who other people are. For I have seen close friends change depending upon their circumstances. One friend, after being married for a few years, would talk one way with us but dramatically change around his wife. And at work, he was another person, completely. Yet, while we were in college, he spoke openly about his opinions. He still did, but he learned to play a sort of game depending upon situations. And that’s his life. That’s most people’s lives. But it’s life as it wasn’t meant to be.
If you ask me my opinion on any subject, I’ll tell you. I might say, well, I don’t know enough so I’ll have to get back to you on that. Or I’ll share what I know. But I’ll also be listening to gather why you asked the question. And in this, I’ll know where you’re coming from. And if someone wants to be my friend, I won’t change. Then, eventually, many walk away. They like my clarity, but they grow uncomfortable because to really see, to lift the blanket and not talk like a teddy bear or popular beings, they will lose their other friendships. They’re being trained not to see. They can see, but not all the way. For many, it has to be about caring, this movie, these problems, but never real solutions.
I wonder how many readers would like to be themselves, respectfully, but know they have to play the “game” of life to make it. Then we have the three types of people (as I understand Nate Shiransky to mean). There are the completely honest, who manage life, but always are aware. Some of them have always been completely honest, then finding careers in what they truly enjoyed and believed in. Some take on the higher challenges of educating others, becoming lawyers to truly understand, and can negotiate the myriad of obstacles, reading and researching, and over time making real and positive differences. But some of them have to double speak at times to get through life (Double speak, as I understand, is saying something you don’t believe but manage your conversations as need be.), and many are comfortable knowing what is necessary, but some find this difficult, so they choose jobs and careers where they can be around their own. Some know what’s right, also double speak, but they’ve rationalized their behaviors and talk, doing what they need to do and also somehow convincing themselves that the borrowed beliefs have good points (I think many of this group, with time, suffer from stress and have health issues.), thinking that these other people off the path of understanding have points. And so, they learn to cooperate, to stand the middle ground, but then, many of them never really have any answers so often have they compromised their values. Then there are the true believers that believe what the strongest influences are, able to mimic and buy into whatever the overall popular ideas are, often to get ahead. They suffer no difficulties in this and try to get honest people to change their behaviors to match. They are absolutely certain of themselves, and will change their own opinions when the popular and current views become the “norm.” They stand for nothing real. But whatever they take on, to stay on top, even if it’s just in their own mind and to be popular with their friends and family, they are the leaders. Like mists. Just characters in a play. But they’re serious about what they say their serious though they’ve never followed the rabbit down the trail of reason, or got off course long ago.
I have a “friend” that’s like this. We’re friends because we truly like one another, but we’re completely on opposite sides of the fence. He/she will adjust his/her views depending upon what the “consensus” is, then become an authority on those views. So, someone asks, why are we friends. I don’t know. But we like doing things together and talk about other things. So, we have agreed to stay away from certain topics.
That’s the life we’re in. So many seeing so many others going along with whatever is the current thinking, whether right or wrong, to survive. Yet, what are they passing onto the next generation? Their children, friends, and others won’t see a real person but one who mimics like a chameleon wherever they are. So, children grow up without seeing clarity anywhere. Then, some learn to follow. Then there are the ones who see clearly and wonder, like some of us, what is going on? And some of those grow up with incredible stress, but others follow the rabbit and are comfortable with themselves. Life is a real lesson.
So, the answer? Think for yourself. But be brave enough to question your own beliefs. But if you’re honest, you’ll be willing to go through the discomfort, and valley of the unknown, and also know, with each step of the way, you’re changing things for the better. For each person that wakes up and smells the roses, seeing cause and effects, seeing the propaganda and rhetoric for what it is, but realizing not to try to change everything all at once but each person does the little things in their little corner of life, makes that little difference for the positive, becoming examples others will appreciate, or some. But it’s one step at a time, one day at a time, and over many years, more and more people realizing becomes the popular. Popular to think for yourself.